Keep Your Dating Pipeline Full!

Ladies, get OUT and meet more men.  This is best way actually to GET MORE DATES.

How many men did you flirt with this week?

How many men did you speak with this week?

In line at Starbucks?

Or were you too aloof to notice Mr. Financial District next to you?

Too snobby to chat up Mr. Blue Collar ordering the Grande Drip, black?
I date a LOT because I make an effort to meet a lot of men.
I also REALLY LIKE men.
I feel they can FEEL that about me.

I appreciate them.  I admire them.  And I am very accepting of them that they are very visually stimulated and think about sex every 3.7 nano seconds.  Wow!  Aren’t you grateful that they do that?

It just means they think about it more than you do, and I am SO glad that they ARE thinking about it more than I.  Or things would just be too, too, too terribly embarrassing, n’est pas?

How about yourself?  Do you really LIKE men?  Sure, you’re heterosexual (if you made it this far through my website, I’m just going out on a limb here that THAT is the case…..).  You are sexually and romantically attracted to men.  But do you really LIKE them?

Check your thinking.

Do you catch yourself thinking to yourself or saying to your GFs, “Ugh!  Men are such Jerks!”  Or “Ogh!  Men are such idiots.”  Mhmm.  Of course they can be.  And I can be a bitch and a shrew, thank you, but I’m hoping it’s not your predominate thought about me.

I want you to do me a favor and start saying to yourself every morning while you are happily brushing and flossing your teeth (you are flossing, right?  Be YOUR Best YOU!  Flossing is part of it.  Uh huh. OK, we’re good.), “MEN are WONDERFUL!”  Say it.  MEAN it.  Say it SMILING (easier to brush and floss while you’re smiling….). Say it with ENTHUSIASM.  Toss your head with your dazzling smile as you say it, “Men are WONDERFUL!”

And then during the day, give yourself a little challenge.  Stive to NOTICE all the wonderful things men are doing around you.  Keep note of them.  Then at night, go write them down.  Keep a pretty femmy fabulousity journal.  Have a section on “Things I Admire About Men!”  Things for which you are grateful.

Note: Jan 2019 Obviously, I wrote this article back in the San Francisco Bay Area Dating Expert Speaker when I was single before getting happily engaged.

Internet Dating With Integrity: How 2 Handle Your Divorced Marital Status Online Dating Profile

Integrity in Dating: How to Handle Your Marital Status in Your Online Dating Profile Divorced

by Internet Dating Expert April Braswell

Integrity in Dating: How to Manage Your Marital Status in Your Online Dating Profile Divorced

Integrity in Dating: How to Handle Your Marriage Status in Your Internet Dating Profile Divorced Singles

Dating Again After Divorce Dilemmas:Looking for Love a Second Time Round Online

With the move of Online Dating well into mainstream singles dating in the past few years, indeed leading to many marriages, including ones cited in TLC’s “Say Yes to the Dress” and “Say Yes to the Dress Atlanta,” singles of all categories are going online looking for love.  Never everyone who is seeking love online is 28 years old and Single Never Married.

That means that many of the singles seeking love online at the internet matchmaking sites, quite a large number are divorced status single men and women.  Current United States Divorce Rates show marriages ending in Divorce at or around 50% of the time.  Online Dating sites can be great singles meeting areas for singles looking for love a second time round, dating again now after their divorce.

However, when you’re single and have been married before, that places you in certain like to your fellow singles.  You are not just “Single.”  You are a “Divorced Single.”  Additionally, repeatedly Divorce Single Men have reported to me that the single women online are often in these hyperanalytical modes of scrutinizing the dating profiles of the single men at the internet dating sites and will either email them or outright boldly put them under the microscope on the First Date.

Single women are asking the Divorced Single Men, “Why did your marriage fail?”  Even before they have met, have shaken hands, shared a glass of a beverage and conversed comfortably to even vet to establish in-person chemistry, the Divorce Deposition is being smacked down on the table like a 50 page Qualifying Questionnaire.

Framing the question like that doesn’t serve to open the conversation and become better acquainted.  It can on serve to put the Divorced Single Men on the defensive.  That can never foster an atmosphere of romance, attraction, and chemistry on the First Date.  And then the singles are throwing their hands up in the air uttering, “Online Dating just doesn’t work!”

Single Divorced Women can have just as challenging a position.  Quite often single women when divorced can feel a loss or diminishing of their feeling like an attractive, appealing and alluring woman.  Additionally, if she has kids from her first marriage, she is juggling all the responsibilities of a full-time work career plus the responsibilities of being a Single Mom and Single Parent.

How does she find and afford a baby sitter?  What about the time and energy just to look for love online and offline?  Resting enough and destressing sufficiently to feel feminine and alluring so she can flirt with the single guys she meets?

All too often I see a problem in the Divorced Singles Dating profiles where they fall prey to one of two Divorced Dating Profile Disasters and Dilemmas.  The Divorced Single might place too strong an emphasis on their ex-spouse in their profile and explain what a wonderful or dreadful divorce they have.  Or they devote too much Profile Real Estate to defining themselves as a Single Dad or Single Mom and how wonderful and important their children are to them.

Of course your children are important to you.  However, do not emphasize that attribute of yours in your Divorced Single Dating Profile.  You want to paint a picture a little bit of the kind of Romantic Relationship Partner you would be for your PDs, Prospective Dates.

To do otherwise hobbles your chances at navigating successfully to the First Date and charting the waters into Dating Courtship.
Happy Dating and Relationships,


April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert
As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition

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